Our son’s college graduation ceremony was cancelled in May due to CV-19. They had a simple online video acknowledgement of the occasion with a few speakers, which was the best they could do during the global pandemic.
Our son wasn’t too disappointed, but Mrs. Fire Station was not happy at all. She was really looking forward to seeing him walk across the stage and get his diploma. We are all resigned to the fact that big ceremonies are not possible in 2020, but he’s our only child, so that experience won’t happen again at our house.
For a stay-at-home mom, your child’s graduation ceremony is kind of a proxy for having your own retirement party. It is a time to celebrate a major milestone for the graduate, but also for the parents that helped get them there. Especially the mom that was home with him all of those years and taught him his numbers, started him reading, and first took him to preschool.
Unlike the opportunity I had to have a retirement party at work – with colleagues, champagne toasts, and a chocolate cake – a stay-at-home mom misses that final, ceremonial experience. Since she didn’t walk away from a corporate job like I did, she doesn’t always feel like she is retired the same way that I do.
As a result, when people ask her what she does for work, she has a hard time saying she is ‘retired’. While she provided for our family in many ways over the years, her role ended more quietly and without the same definite, completion.
(In fact, you can argue that motherhood (or fatherhood) is a role that never ends, especially since our son is living and working from our house during the pandemic.)
So here’s a salute to all of the stay-at-home mothers that retired without the ceremony that they are due. May you all enjoy the contentment from looking back on your years of work that those of us retired from MegaCorp do!
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